Practical ways to help children understand, express and remember their beloved companion

For many children, the loss of a beloved dog may be their first experience of grief. Dogs are often more than pets — they are playmates, confidants, protectors and cherished members of the family.

Children often move in and out of grief. They may cry one moment and want to play the next. This does not mean they have forgotten their dog or that they are grieving any less.

Be honest and clear

Use simple, age-appropriate words. It is usually best to say that their dog has died. Phrases such as “gone to sleep” can be confusing and may cause worry.

Allow them to feel

Every child is different. Their feelings may come in waves. Let them know it is okay to cry, talk, be quiet, ask questions or need reassurance.

Reassure them

Children may worry they somehow caused their dog’s death. Reassure them clearly and gently that nothing they did caused their dog to die.

Create meaningful memories together

Make a memory box, draw pictures, write letters, create a scrapbook, plant flowers or light a candle on special dates.

Maintain routines and security

Familiar routines can help children feel safe when everything else feels uncertain. Offer extra reassurance and gentle hugs where possible.

Look after yourself too

Children take emotional cues from adults. Allow yourself to grieve and seek support if you need it.

Children do not need us to have all the answers. They need us to love them, listen to them, and walk beside them. Grieving together can help healing begin.